I've been to a lot of events in London.
And tbh I've left most of them feeling exactly the same as when I walked in.
Last Friday was different.
15 incredibly ambitious and driven women walked into a room
think software engineers, bankers, creatives, teachers, founders, operators
and for three hours, nobody shrunk.
Nobody waited to be asked.
Nobody did the thing where you give a vague answer to "what do you do" because you're not sure the room can handle the real one.
Everyone just said their thing:
Their wins.
Their dreams.
What's holding them back.
What they actually need.
And the room responded, with ideas, connections, and "wait, I know exactly who you should speak to"s.
That's what Marlene and I were trying to build when we put this together in about 48 hours on pure adrenaline:
A room where ambition isn't something you dial down to make other people comfortable.
Where your goals are everyone's problem to solve.
And believe me, problems were SOLVED (more on this soon ;) )
It was so refreshing to be part of a room where “she’s bold” was something to celebrate, not something to shame.
I don't think we fully understood what we were creating until we were in it.
OFF THE RECORD is just getting started.
August is coming. Watch this space.
And if you want to be in the next room, dm me :)💗
Shoutout to the absolutely amazing women that came:
Vitaliia Cherepanova Husaina Yusuf Fawziah H. Sonia Toqqe Sanjana Iyer Meryem Hamdani Leah Mainwaring Tesneem S. Izzy Urbanski ayana d’Aguilar
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I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about open roles lately, so I have a quick question for those currently hiring:
Are you hiring for growth, or hiring to replace?
In other words:
Is your team expanding because demand is increasing and you need to scale?
Or are you backfilling a role after someone has moved on?
Trying to understand what’s really driving hiring right now :)
(Any additional insight in the comments would also be super helpful!)
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hit 3k on here recently :)
I don’t really talk about my background much,
mostly because it’s not the most linear story,
but this felt like a good moment to reflect
so here’s a little backstory + what I’ve been building <3
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Just 2 seats left at the table.
If you've been sitting on this, this is your sign!
And if the hater in your head is saying
"I'm not sure I'm impressive enough"
that's EXACTLY why you need to be here.
OFF THE RECORD is not about how far you've come.
It's about how far you want to go.
The only thing we're looking for is ambition and a genuine drive to lift the women around you.
I promise you, that's it.
So, no more excuses…
See you this Friday in London.
Remember, only 2 seats left. Don't let someone else take your seat! 💖
https://luma.com/100ohvak
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What I learnt from watching F1 at Silverstone…
Step AWAY from ur laptop every once in a while, you’ll come back refreshed, reenergised and better for it!
Sincerely,
A girl that often sleeps next to her laptop 😭
(Sorry if you thought this was going to be some B2B SaaS Sales wisdom xx)
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Something nobody talks about enough:
Saying what you want out loud is a skill.
And most of us are completely out of practice.
We've been taught to wait until we're ready.
Until the idea is polished.
Until we're sure we won't look stupid.
So we stay quiet, and the thing we want stays exactly where it is.
The women who are out there getting it?
They're not necessarily more talented.
They're just further along at doing the scary thing:
Saying "I want this" before they're ready, in front of people, and letting that be enough to start moving.
OFF THE RECORD has a pitch round.
Every woman at the table gets five minutes.
You start with the words "I want" and you finish the sentence.
That's it. No deck, no perfect plan and no proof it's going to work.
And then (brace yourself),
You ASK for HELP! 😱
You ask for one thing from the group that will help you towards your goal.
Just you in a room full of women who are rooting for you.
We do it together because the more you say it out loud, the less terrifying it gets. And the less terrifying it gets, the faster everything moves.
15 seats. Application-only. London, 10th July.
Come practice being audacious. Link below 👇
https://luma.com/100ohvak
Can't come to this one? We hope to see you at the next!
https://lnkd.in/epj5kQwa
In fact, start training that muscle now! Let me know what your goal is and what you need to make it happen :)
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I keep coming back to the same question:
If your company values only exist when things are going well...
are they actually values?
Pendo.io's recent layoffs made me think about that a lot.
I ended up writing about what the layoff itself signalled,
why culture usually fails long before anyone notices,
and why "be transparent" is only useful if you've actually built a system that tells people how to be transparent when everything's gone sideways.
Full piece below.
https://lnkd.in/e73m9b9T
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WOW! The reception after the OFF THE RECORD launch has been INSANE!!
My DM's have been flooded with everything from
"Just applied, can't wait to come to this!" to
"GIRL IM BUSY THAT DAY PLEASE HOST IT AGAIN!"
So, we're opening a waitlist for early access to all our future events...
I've also been getting a few questions about what attendees can expect from the evening, so...
Things that are NOT on the agenda at OFF THE RECORD:
❌ A panel of women you can't talk to
❌ Standing in a corner pretending to check your phone
❌ Leaving with 6 business cards and zero follow-ups
❌ Shrinking so you don't seem like too much
Things that MOST DEFINITELY are:
✅ Saying your biggest goal out loud in a room full of women who want to help
✅ Someone at the table going "wait, I know exactly who you need to speak to"
✅ Finding your group of girls that share your ambition and drive
✅ Leaving with one concrete thing to do and people to hold you to it
15 seats (only a few left!). Application-only. London, 10th July.
Link below 👇
https://luma.com/100ohvak
Can't come to this one? We hope to see you at the next! 👇
https://lnkd.in/epj5kQwa
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some guy just KILLED Apollo, Apify, and lead-gen agencies...
in a single GitHub repo.
it's free.
it's open source,
26,000 developers already know about it,
and i can't believe I've not seen ANYONE on LinkedIn talking about it.
here's what it does:
→ scrapes any public website
→ you write your request in plain english
→ it returns clean, structured data
→ no selectors. no code. no monthly subscription.
you talk to it in plain english,
it hands you a clean list of contacts, prices, listings... whatever you want!
i used it to build something in an afternoon that an agency would've quoted me £5k for.
the setup takes 10 minutes.
and the cost per lead after that? zero.
if you're in sales, recruiting, research, or just tired of paying for stale data,
you NEED this!
comment "SCRAPE" below and i'll send you the repo + a setup guide i put together 👇
(Make sure you’re connected so i can send it :) )
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Aristotle would say your leadership development programme isn't developing leaders.
It's developing people who are very good at being assessed for leadership.
The competency framework describes what the excellent leader does.
It has no mechanism for producing what the excellent leader is.
And that gap between behaviour and character is where a decade of corporate incentives quietly does its work.
The person who learns that projecting confidence is rewarded eventually stops being able to distinguish projection from the genuine article.
The person who learns that selective honesty doesn't cost them anything calls it tact.
The person who becomes excellent at performing integrity in the moments that are being observed is developing something.
It just isn't what Aristotle meant by virtue.
And this (what Aristotle called habituation) works in both directions:
Organisations form character whether they intend to or not,
through what they reward,
what they tolerate,
and what they make it expensive to say out loud.
It's not the leadership framework on the intranet doing this work,
it's the incentive structure.
My new Substack piece follows Aristotle into the 360 review, the stretch assignment, and the offsite with the laminated values card, and finds the same question underneath all of it:
what kind of person is this environment manufacturing?
Full piece below 👇
https://lnkd.in/exNVrvht